She has told me that she likes the idea of tricking people into thinking she is a boy. A little boy once asked her what she was, a boy or a girl, and she didn’t like that at all.
As a Mom I am here to guide but I have to make sure I don’t strangle who she is inside. So even though I am a long hair person I have been supportive of her want of short hair. The short hair has still had length until recently.
I took her to see Kim, our hairdresser, and the three of us discussed what Mini Red wants. As Kim is cutting I’m thinking, “Ahhh a lot is being cut off and it's looking like Flock of Seagulls!” This worries me and I fear the crying of “Oh no my hair!” Kim tells Mini Red to feel the back of her hair and her face went to a big O. She was thrilled and I am so happy she is happy but oye it’s really short!
I took a photo with my phone and sent it to her father who was less than thrilled but he too understands that Mini Red is at an age where she is making more and more of her own decisions. However, his wife is frustrated since she is trying to grow her long hair back after dealing with chemo and here Mini Red cuts all hers off.
What I finally understood is she didn’t want to look like a boy but amaze people how nice she looks with short hair. She also tells me that she wants something different than all the other girls. So when people see her hair they realize she walks to the beat of her own drummer.
It’s gonna take some time for me to get used to it but I’m glad she is happy with it. She understands that I need to get used to it but I have stressed that what is important is she is happy with it no matter what anyone says including her parents.
My Dad never likes my hair and I'm 43. I do stuff in community theater down in Southern Maryland, and depending upon the show my hair may be down to my shoulder or I may be completelt bald.
ReplyDeleteSeeing how kids will turn out and the decisions they make as they become little people is very interesting. Of course, it is much more fun when they aren't your kid.
Dang it now I got that song stuck in my head now,"...and I ran, I ran so far away. Wouldn't get away!" By the Flock of Seagulls, thanks for getting that song in there, gonna take me a few hours to try to get it out.
ReplyDeletehummm... a post about a Flock of Seagulls hairdo on Mini, eh? i love blogs where i get a sense of "deja vu doo" while reading them. cheers.
ReplyDeleteVery nice! How about showing us what the front looks like?
ReplyDeleteThat was so me when I was a kid: be different. Oh, wait, it still is.
ReplyDeleteThat's cool that she wants to be different!
ReplyDeleteThe photo!
ReplyDeleteUncle Keith: My Mom and her see more eye to eye. I think it skips generations and this is why we always oppose our parents.
ReplyDeletecoldguy: Thanks, now I have that song stuck in my head.
minijonb: Flock of Seagulls is a generational thing. I will have to enlighten Mini Red.
Tish: Still working out how she is wearing it and coming along well. I'll snap a photo tonight and post.
kilgorsky: With the red hair we already stick out like sore thumbs ,especially, when we are together.
jc: I'm all for individuality.
kilgorsky: What about the photo? Can you tell where we were?
I thought you weren't going to post any photographs. I didn't for a long time, as I really want to keep my journal annonymous, but I caved in and published some, for example this month. The new ones, in the post above, look great.
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